Saturday, October 30, 2010

Leading pt 2

Moves are like an earthquake. Making a move changes things. You cannot expect to make a move and expect no one to notice, least of all the girl you're putting the moves on.

But that's a good thing. Because how she handles it tells you whether she's into it or not.

If making a move was covert and indistinguishable from not making a move, she would have nothing to react to before it was actually happening.

That would be like a stand-up comedian just saying punchlines without the setup. Just plain weird.

Watch this clip from Season 4 of Weeds. (about 11:05 in)

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Leading pt 1

Leading is about providing direction and taking the first step. It's saying "let's get out of here," it's pulling her in and planting your lips on hers, it's taking her hand and leading her into the bedroom, it's slipping your hands under her shirt and onto her bare skin.

Saying "I like you" is not leading. Lesser men say it as a way of giving up the lead to her. That's why women freak out. They do not want to lead. It's hard. It takes guts. It takes resilience. It takes being a man.

Monday, October 11, 2010

That Whore!

Of course, I'm being sarcastic. Karen Owen's Fuck List has made the rounds, and everyone has an opinion.

I'm not going to comment on the name calling or the opinions of others. I'm not even going to comment on her ranking of the guys she hooked up with or how she ranked them.

I will however point out one simple fact - loser and winner alike, all the guys she slept with made the first move. They were unambiguous in their words and actions. Often times, it was the cleverly worded "let's fuck" or "you've got a great rack" along with physically grabbing her.

In some cases, personality defects, disagreeableness and national origin didn't stop her from sleeping with the guy. She hooked up anyway and regretted it later.

And those guys who made a move but still didn't hook up with her - they're probably glad they dodged that bullet. She wrote nothing about them, they lost nothing by making a move and they probably all have healthy and full sex lives despite not banging Karen Owen.

But not in a single case did she make the first move, even if, for the sake of argument, she is the biggest slut on the planet (a label I don't attach to her).

And that's important to remember.

My advice to those reading - do not try to be any girl's 12 out of 10. Her ranking of you is based on several factors, subjective factors. Instead, make a move and let her rank you after you get yours. In the worst case, you got yours. In the best case, you found someone who values you just the way you are, with zero effort spent on "self-improvement".

Because no matter how big a slut a girl is, she will rarely make the first move.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

The Bitch/Sex Paradox

When you first get into a relationship, everything is fantastic. Frequent sex, no arguments, etc.

But the longer you stay in that relationship, the less sex you have and the more arguments you have.

I'm not going to blame the lack of sex on the girl. I'm going to blame her bitchiness and arguing on the lack of sex.

The more sex a girl has, the more sex a girl wants. For men, sadly, the opposite is true, at least when it is with the same person. That's not necessarily a bad thing. Several evolutionary factors contribute to it and make it beneficial.

But for women, especially in long term relationships, the less sex she has, the less she is able to deal with stress and the more likely she is to turn her frustrations and anger towards the release of her frustrations - the man in her life.

If you're in a long term relationship and wondering why you're arguing more*, it's because you're having less sex. Fuck her rough, fuck her hard. Make her submit to your cock in bed, and she'll submit to you in life. Start early, maintain for the rest of your life.

Viagra has a greater purpose than just getting an old man off - keeping his woman happy.

*this assumes there is no real reason for the argument. If you're having real problems, this is not the answer.