In this short life, a man only has three responsibilities.
1) Shelter
2) Food
3) Continue the species
That is it. In fact, with that last one, I can actually reduce it to two responsibilities.
1) Continue the species
2) Survive till old age
If we look at survival as the goal, shelter and food become the means by which we accomplish that. We get those means through other means - money, job, car, TV, internet, etc.
All that other shit are just means by which we accomplish those goals.
Only reason we need a car is to get to work, the supermarket, etc in order to earn money to pay the rent or mortgage on time and buy the chicken to stuff in the oven.
The TV and internet is stuff we do for recreation. But recreation is itself a means to an end. By having fun with others, we bond with them. With males we bond with, we find the type of support necessary for our own survival - financial aid when times get rough, roommates to split the rent with, fellow hunters when stalking our prey, etc.
Making male friends is good for survival, but still only a means towards survival.
And the women we bond with, they allow us to accomplish our second goal - continue the species. But recreation is a means by which we get our women.
This post probably doesn't make a whole lot of sense to you. It barely makes sense to me.
I guess all I'm saying is don't lose sight of the bigger picture. Fancy clothes, mansions, fast cars, 500+ TV Channels, the ideal job. They're nice. But they're not essential.
Focus on taking care of the big two things in your life:
1) surviving
2) procreating
The rest of it is just how you get those two things done. There are ways that give you pleasure and ways that make it painful for you to want to do either of the big two.
Don't sweat it if you didn't go to college or if you aren't married to your high school crush. You may have lost the battle, but the war is far from over.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Review: Assholes Finish First
I just received the new Tucker Max book Assholes Finish First, and though I'm not through reading it, I've read enough (about half) to want to recommend it.
For those of you who have read his website and his previous book, I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, it's more of the same. He even reprints two or three of the same stories, with slightly different words. It's like hearing the same story again from the same guy over a different beer in a different bar. Straight from his mouth.
But that would be my only criticism of it. AFF is an entertaining read as well as an educational one.
Max brags and self-deprecates with stories about his conquests - hot girls, average girls, ugly girls, fat girls, midget girls, amputees, LA girls, and the list goes on.
As a guy, I find his stories entertaining. Some of them crossover into asshole territory (well, most of them do - okay, all of them), but the fact that he owns up to it and shows how not everyone loves him but still holds himself in high esteem adds to his credibility and charm. Some of my best friends are assholes, but the fact they're honest about it is why they are my friends.
He's also a talented writer. His way with words and comedic timing are brilliant. Easy to read and they paint an enticing picture.
But most people familiar with Max focus on his drunken debauchery and think he advocates that as a lifestyle for everyone. Not so.
One of things I got from him from his first book, and even this one, is that he is rejected far more than he is successful. He makes fun of everyone and everything. Most girls hate him for it.
How would you feel if someone did nothing but make fun of your insecurities with every word out of their mouth?
But some girls loved it. Or they were willing to put up with it just to sleep with him, long before he had become famous. They found something about him attractive, maybe mistaking his obnoxiousness for charm and charisma as the reason for his being the center of attention.
It was this dynamic, of him getting rejected and him getting sex from different women for the same exact reason coupled with my own experiences that led me to my theory of the big three and added to my own self-confidence.
One woman's trash is another woman's treasure. Some girls will hate you. A lot will, actually, no matter how you act. But some girls will love you, or put up with you, no matter how you act. But regardless of how you act, it's up to you make a move and tell them "I want to make a mess in your mouth."
That and even the most famous of manwhores doesn't bang hot girls all the time. He sleeps with whoever is willing and isn't put off by him - and can still get him reasonably excited.
I don't advocate sleeping with women you are not attracted to. But I do say that if you expect to sleep with only women you consider 10s, you won't be sleeping with a lot of women.
Quality over quantity. It's a lesson Max imparts well, even if he opts for quantity over quality.
For those of you who have read his website and his previous book, I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, it's more of the same. He even reprints two or three of the same stories, with slightly different words. It's like hearing the same story again from the same guy over a different beer in a different bar. Straight from his mouth.
But that would be my only criticism of it. AFF is an entertaining read as well as an educational one.
Max brags and self-deprecates with stories about his conquests - hot girls, average girls, ugly girls, fat girls, midget girls, amputees, LA girls, and the list goes on.
As a guy, I find his stories entertaining. Some of them crossover into asshole territory (well, most of them do - okay, all of them), but the fact that he owns up to it and shows how not everyone loves him but still holds himself in high esteem adds to his credibility and charm. Some of my best friends are assholes, but the fact they're honest about it is why they are my friends.
He's also a talented writer. His way with words and comedic timing are brilliant. Easy to read and they paint an enticing picture.
But most people familiar with Max focus on his drunken debauchery and think he advocates that as a lifestyle for everyone. Not so.
One of things I got from him from his first book, and even this one, is that he is rejected far more than he is successful. He makes fun of everyone and everything. Most girls hate him for it.
How would you feel if someone did nothing but make fun of your insecurities with every word out of their mouth?
But some girls loved it. Or they were willing to put up with it just to sleep with him, long before he had become famous. They found something about him attractive, maybe mistaking his obnoxiousness for charm and charisma as the reason for his being the center of attention.
It was this dynamic, of him getting rejected and him getting sex from different women for the same exact reason coupled with my own experiences that led me to my theory of the big three and added to my own self-confidence.
One woman's trash is another woman's treasure. Some girls will hate you. A lot will, actually, no matter how you act. But some girls will love you, or put up with you, no matter how you act. But regardless of how you act, it's up to you make a move and tell them "I want to make a mess in your mouth."
That and even the most famous of manwhores doesn't bang hot girls all the time. He sleeps with whoever is willing and isn't put off by him - and can still get him reasonably excited.
I don't advocate sleeping with women you are not attracted to. But I do say that if you expect to sleep with only women you consider 10s, you won't be sleeping with a lot of women.
Quality over quantity. It's a lesson Max imparts well, even if he opts for quantity over quality.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Mission 3
So you've gotten good at getting phone numbers and dates, but you still aren't getting laid, so what are you doing wrong?
Nothing. Or everything.
Do the girls know that they're on a date with you and not simply hanging out with a friend? Really? You used the word "date" and have not hidden it behind humor or sarcasm so as to diffuse its meaning?
A girl has to know your desire for her. Sometimes you use clear unambiguous words. And you always back it up with action.
Take for example the phrase "Yeah, I want to fuck you."
Try saying it sarcastically. Right now. Sitting right there. Say it out loud or in your head.
It will probably sound something like this:
"Sshhheaaah. I want to fuck you" *eye roll*
The words were fast, lots of variation in tone of voice and facial expression.
Now trying saying it as if you really meant it.
It will probably sound something like this:
"Yeah."
*look into her eyes*
*glance down to her lips*
*your eyes slowly drift back to her eyes*
"I want to fuck you"
You'll probably say it softer, kinder, and slower. Of course, that's not the only way to say it. You may say it without using any words. You may use different words.
But your actions and tone of voice would likely be only slightly different.
And that's what mission three is about. Being sexual.
With every girl you meet and are attracted to, you are to be sexual with them. You may choose to wait until you're on a date or seem to be clicking, you may choose to start immediately.
The point here isn't to avoid rejection. If she's not interested, you will be rejected, make no doubt about it. But that's the point. You want to sort out the ones who are interested from the ones who aren't.
And I will say that the sooner she rejects you because of your sexual advances, the better.
Why waste time on a girl who isn't interested?
Nothing. Or everything.
Do the girls know that they're on a date with you and not simply hanging out with a friend? Really? You used the word "date" and have not hidden it behind humor or sarcasm so as to diffuse its meaning?
A girl has to know your desire for her. Sometimes you use clear unambiguous words. And you always back it up with action.
Take for example the phrase "Yeah, I want to fuck you."
Try saying it sarcastically. Right now. Sitting right there. Say it out loud or in your head.
It will probably sound something like this:
"Sshhheaaah. I want to fuck you" *eye roll*
The words were fast, lots of variation in tone of voice and facial expression.
Now trying saying it as if you really meant it.
It will probably sound something like this:
"Yeah."
*look into her eyes*
*glance down to her lips*
*your eyes slowly drift back to her eyes*
"I want to fuck you"
You'll probably say it softer, kinder, and slower. Of course, that's not the only way to say it. You may say it without using any words. You may use different words.
But your actions and tone of voice would likely be only slightly different.
And that's what mission three is about. Being sexual.
With every girl you meet and are attracted to, you are to be sexual with them. You may choose to wait until you're on a date or seem to be clicking, you may choose to start immediately.
The point here isn't to avoid rejection. If she's not interested, you will be rejected, make no doubt about it. But that's the point. You want to sort out the ones who are interested from the ones who aren't.
And I will say that the sooner she rejects you because of your sexual advances, the better.
Why waste time on a girl who isn't interested?
Meeting the Folks
It's always nerve racking to meet a girl's family for the first time. With her friends, it's likely they share her sense of humor or have something else in common with her. So if you get along with her, it's almost guaranteed you'll get along with her friends.
But her parents are a different story. Even if they do share the same sense of humor as you, you'll still find the need to hold some thoughts back. Sex jokes, for example, are off the table unless they're subtle.
A simple rule to help get by is that if you won't say it in front of your parents, don't say it in front of hers. Outside of that, have fun and let the good times roll.
But her parents are a different story. Even if they do share the same sense of humor as you, you'll still find the need to hold some thoughts back. Sex jokes, for example, are off the table unless they're subtle.
A simple rule to help get by is that if you won't say it in front of your parents, don't say it in front of hers. Outside of that, have fun and let the good times roll.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Sex Tip#3
When you are ready to close, do not ask for her number. Do not ask for a date. Only ask her back to your place or hers. Sex is the only close that counts. If she rejects your offer of sex and does not provide an appealing alternative (like a date or number), find another girl.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Stop Blaming Others
In addition to not blaming yourself when a girl doesn't accept your advances, you have to stop blaming others for "cockblocking" you.
Nothing bothers me more than when a guy says he didn't get the girl because his friends started talking to him or some strangers started talking to the girl he was interested in or that her friend pulled her away from him.
Not being able to take responsibility for your own short comings is probably why the girl, and people in general, are fine with not spending time with you. When you stop blaming others for your not getting laid, perhaps you will be able to find ways to get laid despite the obstacles you may have to face.
Everyone has obstacles, but there are those who get over them and there are those who blame them. A blamer doesn't get over his obstacles. He wallows in self-pity and bitterness. And I can't think of a lot of people who enjoy being around bitter people.
Nothing bothers me more than when a guy says he didn't get the girl because his friends started talking to him or some strangers started talking to the girl he was interested in or that her friend pulled her away from him.
Not being able to take responsibility for your own short comings is probably why the girl, and people in general, are fine with not spending time with you. When you stop blaming others for your not getting laid, perhaps you will be able to find ways to get laid despite the obstacles you may have to face.
Everyone has obstacles, but there are those who get over them and there are those who blame them. A blamer doesn't get over his obstacles. He wallows in self-pity and bitterness. And I can't think of a lot of people who enjoy being around bitter people.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
I hate the laziness of people sometimes.
We live next door to each other, we don't need to be on each other's Facebook. Contact me using my phone, my email, or by knocking. Have a beer or cup of coffee with me. But I will not get a Facebook account so you can delude yourself into thinking I care enough to stalk you. If you want me to check out your photos, show them to me in person.
I hate technology sometimes. Nothing has done more to distance us from each other than technology, for better or worse.
We live next door to each other, we don't need to be on each other's Facebook. Contact me using my phone, my email, or by knocking. Have a beer or cup of coffee with me. But I will not get a Facebook account so you can delude yourself into thinking I care enough to stalk you. If you want me to check out your photos, show them to me in person.
I hate technology sometimes. Nothing has done more to distance us from each other than technology, for better or worse.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Self Esteem vs Entitlement
This is for boys and girls.
When I tell guys that they are measure of all things, they think I'm telling to them to be conceited jerks who think they are always right and others are always wrong.
And that's bullshit.
It's like girls who have the "princess" syndrome. Yes, thinking you are the center of the universe is a bad thing.
Thinking you are the center of YOUR universe is, however, a good thing.
The difference is that when you think you are the center of the universe, you think others owe you something and you have no respect of them. That's conceit.
When you think you are the center of YOUR universe, you judge others based on how useful and compatible they are to you, but you also recognize that they are masters of their own domain.
You recognize that in order to get, you have to give. It's just that you know what you have to give is valuable as opposed to not enough or too good to give anyone for any reason.
Simply put, entitlement and conceit is thinking your shit doesn't stink and everyone else's does. Having low self-esteem is thinking everyone else's shit smells better than yours. And high self esteem or confidence is knowing your shit stinks, but everyone else's shit stinks equally bad.
When I tell guys that they are measure of all things, they think I'm telling to them to be conceited jerks who think they are always right and others are always wrong.
And that's bullshit.
It's like girls who have the "princess" syndrome. Yes, thinking you are the center of the universe is a bad thing.
Thinking you are the center of YOUR universe is, however, a good thing.
The difference is that when you think you are the center of the universe, you think others owe you something and you have no respect of them. That's conceit.
When you think you are the center of YOUR universe, you judge others based on how useful and compatible they are to you, but you also recognize that they are masters of their own domain.
You recognize that in order to get, you have to give. It's just that you know what you have to give is valuable as opposed to not enough or too good to give anyone for any reason.
Simply put, entitlement and conceit is thinking your shit doesn't stink and everyone else's does. Having low self-esteem is thinking everyone else's shit smells better than yours. And high self esteem or confidence is knowing your shit stinks, but everyone else's shit stinks equally bad.
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